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30

Sep

Me when I have a cold and people want to shake hands with me during the sign of peace at church…

27

Sep

Why are people always arguing about crap like celebrities and things in the entertainment industry?

People are dying of Ebola!

ISIS is beheading people!

Countless terrible injustices are occurring right now!

You NEED to sort out your priorities!

24

Sep

Why does every female Halloween costume have to be “sexy?”

I went to Party City the other day to look for a Halloween costume. I decided that I wanted to get a Thor costume because…

A) Thor is a badass.

and

B) ‘Female Thor’ would be a very, topical costume considering the Marvel comic announcement this year.

But, when I got to the store this is what I saw:

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Seriously. Why does every female costume have to be “sexy.” (For the record, Party City called her “sassy.”)

Here are 6 reasons I have a problem with the female Thor costume:

1) I don’t want my boobs hanging out. Also, 9 times out of 10, someone at a Halloween party will spill beer or an alcoholic beverage on you, and I’d rather it get my costume a little wet, then have it run down my chest and ruin my bra.

2) That short little cape is ridiculous. How can female Thor even fly with that thing?! I want a long, floor length cape.

3) The skirt is short and has slits in in. I do not want drunken douche-bags seeing my tessera-ss.

4) If I’m going to be walking around and standing at a Halloween party, I will not be doing it in uncomfortable 6-inch, thigh-high, furry boots.

5) The costume is incredibly skimpy and I will being wearing in in LATE-OCTOBER. I’ll freeze!

6) The costume is 60.00!! And that’s not including the hammer! I’m sorry, but I’m not paying that much for a barely there outfit.

When I’ve complained about this to others I’ve gotten one of two responses:

1) Just buy a smaller size of the male version.

2) Just make your own.

Well, to answer #1, I am a very small person. So, the smallest male size is still 4 sizes too big.

And to answer #2, I’ve done that before for Halloween. Most of the time, I create unique outfits and piece together clothes I own with accessories and bits that I’ve bought new. 

But, Thor is different. The costume is very distinct and the character is from a distant realm. I’m not a seamstress (although I hope to someday rectify that by learning), so making my own is out. And I can’t piece together everyday things and look like Thor. I don’t have metal armor and a giant red cape and a hammer just lying around the house. Also, coming up with a costume takes a lot of time, one thing which I am usually in short supply of.

Yes, I could probably put something together quickly that looks OK, but I don’t want to do that. I’m a bit of a perfectionist and I take Halloween seriously, so it’s all-or-nothing for me.

I’ve always been really into Halloween and the entire fall season. In my opinion, “IT’S THE MOST WONDERFUL TIME OF THE YEAR!” I love carving pumpkins. Eating fall foods and baking yummy treats. Raking and playing in the leaves. Watching scary movies and Halloween/Thanksgiving cartoon specials, like Charlie Brown or Garfield. Trick-or-treating and, now that I’m in my 20s, passing out candy. The whole nine yards.

And part of that fun, for me, is being detail-oriented and realistically accurate with my Halloween costumes. 

For example, two years ago I was Hermione Granger:

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And last year I was Katniss Everdeen:

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Note: I am not dressed as “sexy” Hermione or “sexy” Katniss. I’m showing no cleavage. I’m wearing pants as Katniss and, as Hermione, I’m wearing my old (knee-length) Catholic school skirt with leggings underneath. I was very warm and comfortable in both.

I think I stayed true to the characters with my costumes and looked like I was about to kick some butt with my wand and bow-and-arrow.

I received dozens of compliments and people wanting to take pictures, all without going the “sexy” route.

Don’t get me wrong. I’m not trying to tell other women how to dress. (That would be very unbecoming and anti-feminist of me.)

I’m only talking about my personal preferences.

If you wanna go as “sexy ______,” more power to ya. I have lots of girl friends who like to dress like that. To each her own.

But, I don’t want to dress like that. And I know a lot of other women would agree.

I think there needs to be a change in the costumes that Halloween stores sell. 

Go ahead, costume creators, sell your Male Thor costumes and your “Sassy” Female Thor costumes.

But, can you also make regular, female-sized costumes that include things like pants or longer skirts, muscle padding, and necklines higher than a person’s nipples.

I want a costume that looks cool and accurate to the character.

I want something that is comfortable and keeps me warm.

I want to run AMUCK AMUCK AMUCK without a tiny skirt flipping up or my boobs falling out.

Is that really so much to ask?

The Trendiest Vegetables of the Last 50 Years, from Avocados to Kale

Interesting.

Happy National Punctuation Day, Trolls of the Internet!

Go out and celebrate by using punctuation properly for once in your lives.

Your grammar and spelling could use some work, as well.

Signed,

Your Friendly Neighborhood English Grad

P.S.

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22

Sep

Closing books shuts out ideas.

Closing books shuts out ideas.

It’s the first day of fall and you know what that means…

21

Sep

You know that period, just after you open your eyes from sleeping, where your dream actually sounds plausible or OK.

And then 10 seconds later, when you fully wake up, you’re like…

THAT DOESN’T EVEN MAKE SENSE? 

WHY, BRAIN? WHY WOULD YOU DREAM THAT?!

To the two followers who just unfollowed my blog because I posted about gender equality, feminism, and women’s rights…

Emma Watson is pure perfection!
She gave an AMAZING speech for the HeForShe campaign launch yesterday in New York. Emma talked at length about gender roles, gender equality, and the need for change in the way society views feminism.  She also challenged boys and men to join the gender equality movement.
Read her speech:

Today we are launching a campaign HeForShe. I am reaching out to you because we need your help. We must try to mobilize as many men and boys as possible to be advocates for change. We don’t just want to talk about it. We want to try and make sure it’s tangible. I was appointed as Goodwill Ambassador for UN Women 6 months ago.
The more I spoke about feminism, the more I realized that fighting for women’s rights has too often become synonymous with man-hating. If there is one thing I know for certain is that this has to stop. For the record, feminism by definition is the belief that men and women should have equal rights and opportunities. It is the theory of political, economic and social equality of the sexes.
When I was 8, I was called bossy because I wanted to direct a play for our parents. At 15, my girlfriends didn’t want to join sports teams because they didn’t want to appear masculine. At 18, my male friends were unable to express their feelings.
I decided that I was a feminist. This seemed uncomplicated to me. But my recent research has shown me that feminism has become an unpopular word. Women are choosing not to identify as feminists. Apparently, [women’s expression is] seen as too strong, too aggressive, anti-men, unattractive.
Why has the word become such an unpopular one? I think it is right I am paid the same as my male counterparts. I think it is right that I should make decisions about my own body. I think it is right that women be involved on my behalf in the policies and decisions that affect my life. I think it is right that socially, I am afforded the same respect as men.
But sadly, I can say that there is no one country in the world where all women can expect to see these rights. No country in the world can yet say that they achieved gender equality. These rights are considered to be human rights but I am one of the lucky ones.
My life is a sheer privilege because my parents didn’t love me less because I was born a daughter. My school did not limit me because I was a girl. These influences are the gender equality ambassadors that made me who I am today. They may not know it but they are the feminists needed in the world today. We need more of those.
It is not the word that is important. It is the idea and the ambition behind it because not all women received the same rights I have. In fact, statistically, very few have.
In 1997, Hillary Clinton made a famous speech in Beijing about women’s rights. Sadly, many that she wanted to change are still true today. Less than 30% of the audience were male. How can we effect change in the world when only half of it is invited to participate in the conversation?
Men, I would like to give this opportunity to extend your formal invitation. Gender equality is your issue, too. To date, I’ve seen my father’s role as a parent being valued less by society. I’ve seen young men suffering from illness, unable to ask for help for fear it will make them less of a man. I’ve seen men fragile and insecure by what constitutes male success. Men don’t have the benefits of equality, either.
We don’t want to talk about men being imprisoned by gender stereotypes but I can see that they are. When they are free, things will change for women as a natural consequence. If men don’t have to be aggressive, women won’t be compelled to be submissive. If men don’t need to control, women won’t have to be controlled.
Both men and women should feel free to be strong. It is time that we all see gender as a spectrum instead of two sets of opposing ideals. We should stop defining each other by what we are not and start defining ourselves by who we are. We can all be freer and this is what HeForShe is about. It’s about freedom. I want men to take up this mantle so their daughters, sisters and mothers can be free from prejudice but also so their sons have permission to be vulnerable and human, too and in doing so, be a more true and complete version of themselves.
You might think: who is this Harry Potter girl? What is she doing at the UN? I’ve been asking myself at the same thing. All I know is that I care about this problem and I want to make this better. And having seen what I’ve seen and given the chance, I feel my responsibility to say something. Edmund Burke said all that is need for the forces of evil to triumph is for good men and women to do nothing
In my nervousness for this speech and my moment of doubt, I told myself: if not me, who? If not now, when? You have the opportunity here. If you believe in equality, I implore you: we must strive for a united world but the good news is we have a platform. It is called he for she. I invite you to step forward, to be seen and I ask yourself: if not me, who? If not now, when? Thank you.

The views Emma expressed about these issues are SO like-minded to my own, it’s scary. (If you would like to read a piece I wrote months ago on the above topics, click here.)
For a long time now, I have tried to explain and write about my beliefs on the topic of feminism to others, but always feel like I’m never heard.
She has the clout and the visibility to reach people, that I do not.
Emma gives me hope for the future of women’s rights and issues. Maybe she can help enact change. 
Keep leading the charge, Emma. Do some good in this world.

Emma Watson is pure perfection!

She gave an AMAZING speech for the HeForShe campaign launch yesterday in New York. Emma talked at length about gender roles, gender equality, and the need for change in the way society views feminism.  She also challenged boys and men to join the gender equality movement.

Read her speech:

Today we are launching a campaign HeForShe. I am reaching out to you because we need your help. We must try to mobilize as many men and boys as possible to be advocates for change. We don’t just want to talk about it. We want to try and make sure it’s tangible. I was appointed as Goodwill Ambassador for UN Women 6 months ago.

The more I spoke about feminism, the more I realized that fighting for women’s rights has too often become synonymous with man-hating. If there is one thing I know for certain is that this has to stop. For the record, feminism by definition is the belief that men and women should have equal rights and opportunities. It is the theory of political, economic and social equality of the sexes.

When I was 8, I was called bossy because I wanted to direct a play for our parents. At 15, my girlfriends didn’t want to join sports teams because they didn’t want to appear masculine. At 18, my male friends were unable to express their feelings.

I decided that I was a feminist. This seemed uncomplicated to me. But my recent research has shown me that feminism has become an unpopular word. Women are choosing not to identify as feminists. Apparently, [women’s expression is] seen as too strong, too aggressive, anti-men, unattractive.

Why has the word become such an unpopular one? I think it is right I am paid the same as my male counterparts. I think it is right that I should make decisions about my own body. I think it is right that women be involved on my behalf in the policies and decisions that affect my life. I think it is right that socially, I am afforded the same respect as men.

But sadly, I can say that there is no one country in the world where all women can expect to see these rights. No country in the world can yet say that they achieved gender equality. These rights are considered to be human rights but I am one of the lucky ones.

My life is a sheer privilege because my parents didn’t love me less because I was born a daughter. My school did not limit me because I was a girl. These influences are the gender equality ambassadors that made me who I am today. They may not know it but they are the feminists needed in the world today. We need more of those.

It is not the word that is important. It is the idea and the ambition behind it because not all women received the same rights I have. In fact, statistically, very few have.

In 1997, Hillary Clinton made a famous speech in Beijing about women’s rights. Sadly, many that she wanted to change are still true today. Less than 30% of the audience were male. How can we effect change in the world when only half of it is invited to participate in the conversation?

Men, I would like to give this opportunity to extend your formal invitation. Gender equality is your issue, too. To date, I’ve seen my father’s role as a parent being valued less by society. I’ve seen young men suffering from illness, unable to ask for help for fear it will make them less of a man. I’ve seen men fragile and insecure by what constitutes male success. Men don’t have the benefits of equality, either.

We don’t want to talk about men being imprisoned by gender stereotypes but I can see that they are. When they are free, things will change for women as a natural consequence. If men don’t have to be aggressive, women won’t be compelled to be submissive. If men don’t need to control, women won’t have to be controlled.

Both men and women should feel free to be strong. It is time that we all see gender as a spectrum instead of two sets of opposing ideals. We should stop defining each other by what we are not and start defining ourselves by who we are. We can all be freer and this is what HeForShe is about. It’s about freedom. I want men to take up this mantle so their daughters, sisters and mothers can be free from prejudice but also so their sons have permission to be vulnerable and human, too and in doing so, be a more true and complete version of themselves.

You might think: who is this Harry Potter girl? What is she doing at the UN? I’ve been asking myself at the same thing. All I know is that I care about this problem and I want to make this better. And having seen what I’ve seen and given the chance, I feel my responsibility to say something. Edmund Burke said all that is need for the forces of evil to triumph is for good men and women to do nothing

In my nervousness for this speech and my moment of doubt, I told myself: if not me, who? If not now, when? You have the opportunity here. If you believe in equality, I implore you: we must strive for a united world but the good news is we have a platform. It is called he for she. I invite you to step forward, to be seen and I ask yourself: if not me, who? If not now, when? Thank you.

The views Emma expressed about these issues are SO like-minded to my own, it’s scary. (If you would like to read a piece I wrote months ago on the above topics, click here.)

For a long time now, I have tried to explain and write about my beliefs on the topic of feminism to others, but always feel like I’m never heard.

She has the clout and the visibility to reach people, that I do not.

Emma gives me hope for the future of women’s rights and issues. Maybe she can help enact change.

Keep leading the charge, Emma. Do some good in this world.